“Why can’t you just settle down?” Maybe it was a partner who said it. Maybe your mother. Maybe that voice in your own head at 2am when you’re googling flights to Portugal even though you just got back from a trip last month. Someone’s told you that you run when things get real, that you’re…
“You’re overthinking it.” “Why can’t you just relax?” “Not everything has to be perfect, you know.” If you’ve heard these phrases more times than you can count, and if you’ve ever reorganized someone’s kitchen while they were in the bathroom just because the spices were clearly in the wrong order, welcome. You have a Virgo…
“You’re too sensitive.” “You need thicker skin.” “Stop taking everything so personally.” If you have a Pisces moon, you’ve heard some version of this your entire life. Maybe it was after you teared up during a meeting when your boss’s tone felt harsh. Or when you had to leave a party early because you were…
Someone’s told you that you think too much. Maybe your partner’s said you “overthink everything” when you’re trying to talk through a decision. Or a friend has accused you of being flaky because you changed plans, even though you had a perfectly good reason. You start explaining your thought process, and they interrupt: “Just pick…
“You’re so dramatic.” “Why do you always need so much attention?” “Can’t you just be happy without everyone noticing?” If you’ve heard these criticisms, probably more than once, and felt that familiar sting of being misunderstood, you’re not alone. What people call “dramatic” or “attention-seeking” in you isn’t a character flaw that needs fixing. It’s…
Someone’s crying at the dinner table. Maybe your sister, maybe a friend. Everyone’s scrambling to comfort her. You’re the one who quietly pushes the tissue box closer, refills her water glass, and asks the practical question no one else is thinking: “Did you eat today?” Later, someone tells you that you seemed cold. That you…
Someone’s crying at the dinner table. Maybe your sister, maybe a friend. Everyone’s scrambling to comfort her. You’re the one who quietly pushes the tissue box closer, refills her water glass, and asks the practical question no one else is thinking: “Did you eat today?” Later, someone tells you that you seemed cold. That you…
Someone close to you has said it. Maybe more than once. “Why do you take everything so seriously?” Or the classic: “Can’t you just let it go?” You’ve been told you’re too intense, that you read too much into things, that you hold on too long. A friend mentions a coworker in passing, and three…
Someone’s in the middle of an emotional story—tears, voice shaking, the whole thing—and you feel yourself mentally stepping back, noticing patterns, connecting what they’re saying to something you read last week. Later, they say you seemed cold. Or worse, someone accuses you of “overthinking everything” when you’re just trying to understand the actual structure of…
“Just pick one already.” You’ve heard it your whole life. At restaurants, you’re still scanning the menu while everyone else has ordered. Shopping for a couch, you’ve narrowed it down to three options—but they’re all good for different reasons. Someone asks your opinion in a meeting, and you immediately see merit in both proposals. Your…